Name: Mel L
Message: What do I do if I really, really, really don't like my boyfriends band? Am I obligated to go to shows? It's just not the type of music I would ever listen to, but he loves it so much. I want to support him, but I don't want to have to pretend like I love it...
Oh girl, how I feel you. I’ve dated a few guys in bands, and I’ve been there. But also, to see a guy I love do something that he loved filled me with so much happiness, that I didn’t even care about not being into the music. It’s sharing something special with them. Do you love watching The Real Housewives? Or crocheting uneven scarves? Painting your nails with fancy designs? Bet your boyfriend isn’t into that. But he is probably happy it makes you happy!
Also, I hope you’re not going to 2 or 3 shows a week. If this is way less frequent, I’d say maybe just suck it up. Put on some lipstick and maybe you can make some scene girls jealous. If you’re that miserable, have some beers. Beers make things sound better. And look better. And feel better. Just saying.
But can I get a little fresh here? If you don’t want to go, then just don’t. Go to the gym. Go to the mall. See your ladies. Hang with your guy after the show. Pick his drunk ass up and treat him to a milkshake and onion rings at the diner. But if you really love him and love ALL of him, I’m sure he would appreciate the support. -T
REWIND to this...
Nightmare of You - "Dear Scene, I Wish I Was Deaf": Some bands are shitty. Nightmare of You is not one of them. But they like pointing out that the scene has gotten shitty. I disagree and agree all at the same time, but that’s a discussion we’ll save for another time. They’re real happy, and this song is catchy and fun, and it makes fun of hipsters. So listen to this instead of going to see your boyfriend’s band play!